Due to heart break and the emotional risk involved in love, I just conclude that, love is all about losing one’s self esteem.
So, I decide not to trust again and always walk out of relationships for the fear of being rejected or hurting my feelings. For some time now, I’ve been playing seek and hide game with myself. I can do anything to avoid telling truth in love.
But, to be honest, I’ve not been happy. I always feel I’m missing out something. Till I came across an article that explained the meaning of love to me.
It says, it’s very risky to pretend you love somebody and stay with the person for years without both of you knowing each other well. And, to really express intimate love with your beloved one, you need to open yourself completely to the person. Not just being there physically. But, by showing up emotionally. That one can’t pretend to listen, while thinking about something else. Because love is just the ability to express love.
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
5 Reasons Why Nigerian Men Cheat On Their Wives.
Lots of Interest.
Most men don’t have the intention of cheating on their wives, but they still found themselves flirting. Because, men have one behavior in common, they enjoy being desired by many women.And, they can easily lost interest in their wives. Since romantic feelings changes anytime.
And, they need their wives to stand by them to share and understand secrets feelings together. And also avoid unfaithfulness. Because, marriage is renewed by sharingfeelings together. But, most wives don’t converse with their husbands beyond the daily activities.
Nagging.
If the husband is being snatched by another woman. The man would gradually become non-communicative. He may also increase his evening outings just to meet his newly found love
When the wife discovers her husband’s cheats. She may nag and quarrels over minor issues. But, nagging can’t change the husband, instead will make him avoid the wife.
Foot Mat
When nagging fails, she may resort to begging and weeping .And; promise to be a better lover. Unfortunately, the wife would lose her hard earned dignity .Because, no wife has ever begged and wept for his husband to marry her. So, the husband would turn her into foot mat where he cleans his feet. Or, sex toy, he uses and abandons to stay with the other woman.
Third Party.
Most Nigerian wives would reveal the embarrassing truth to their pastorsand demand prayers. Or, gossip with friends. Or, report it to their family members.
This may result into wife battering. Because, once the position of a man in the family is being disgraced, HE may use his fist to resolve the differences. And, still continue cheating on the wife.
Dialogue
This remains me of an old adage that says,’ No matter how tall an okro plant is, it can still be ploughed by the owner’’.It simply means, no matter how much a husband cheats on his wife. The wife can still bring him down in bed. Because, she understands him more than any other person .And, knows how to sweep him into ecstasy-remembering those rosy days where they displayed love in public.
Most men don’t have the intention of cheating on their wives, but they still found themselves flirting. Because, men have one behavior in common, they enjoy being desired by many women.And, they can easily lost interest in their wives. Since romantic feelings changes anytime.
And, they need their wives to stand by them to share and understand secrets feelings together. And also avoid unfaithfulness. Because, marriage is renewed by sharingfeelings together. But, most wives don’t converse with their husbands beyond the daily activities.
Nagging.
If the husband is being snatched by another woman. The man would gradually become non-communicative. He may also increase his evening outings just to meet his newly found love
When the wife discovers her husband’s cheats. She may nag and quarrels over minor issues. But, nagging can’t change the husband, instead will make him avoid the wife.
Foot Mat
When nagging fails, she may resort to begging and weeping .And; promise to be a better lover. Unfortunately, the wife would lose her hard earned dignity .Because, no wife has ever begged and wept for his husband to marry her. So, the husband would turn her into foot mat where he cleans his feet. Or, sex toy, he uses and abandons to stay with the other woman.
Third Party.
Most Nigerian wives would reveal the embarrassing truth to their pastorsand demand prayers. Or, gossip with friends. Or, report it to their family members.
This may result into wife battering. Because, once the position of a man in the family is being disgraced, HE may use his fist to resolve the differences. And, still continue cheating on the wife.
Dialogue
This remains me of an old adage that says,’ No matter how tall an okro plant is, it can still be ploughed by the owner’’.It simply means, no matter how much a husband cheats on his wife. The wife can still bring him down in bed. Because, she understands him more than any other person .And, knows how to sweep him into ecstasy-remembering those rosy days where they displayed love in public.
Monday, September 28, 2009
Solution to Spouse Caught in Adultery
People may be busy blaming and judging the spouse. But, this reminds me of one old adage that says; ‘’ Marital problems are best resolved in bed’’. Marriage is quite different from other institutions. You never can tell whether they would divorce, separate or resolved it in bed.
You can’t expect the police or the court to forgive you of your crime. But, forgiveness and reconciliation is the noblest act in marriage. I know it isn’t an easy thing. But, it’s better than divorce. Because divorce will do more harm than good.
Divorce is just like walking out with a wounded heart. You surrender everything you have. Children, finances and houses. It’s just an exchange of problems.
Why You Are Dating Wrong
Feelings can turn upside down anytime, especially in romantic relationships. And, interest can be lost if one of the partners is fade up with love. He’ll simply desire new thrill. Or, feels he’s caged and wish to walk out of the relationship.
And, he sees the usual romantic activities as very difficult task to perform. He’ll no longer embrace, hug or, kiss his partner. In fact, he does anything to stay away from the partner. He may suddenly develop interest in sports, drinking and meeting friend outside the relationship.
The lost of interest can happen anytime. It could be the very first day of date or, later. Anytime those boring and hatred feelings are developed towards a partner.
In this can of relationship, one of the partners really cares about the relationship and would want to save it and carry on. But, the less concern partner has already made up his mind to destroy everything.
And, the lost of enthusiasm isn’t always noticeable by the partners. Until one of them starts behaving unusually
You can’t expect the police or the court to forgive you of your crime. But, forgiveness and reconciliation is the noblest act in marriage. I know it isn’t an easy thing. But, it’s better than divorce. Because divorce will do more harm than good.
Divorce is just like walking out with a wounded heart. You surrender everything you have. Children, finances and houses. It’s just an exchange of problems.
Why You Are Dating Wrong
Feelings can turn upside down anytime, especially in romantic relationships. And, interest can be lost if one of the partners is fade up with love. He’ll simply desire new thrill. Or, feels he’s caged and wish to walk out of the relationship.
And, he sees the usual romantic activities as very difficult task to perform. He’ll no longer embrace, hug or, kiss his partner. In fact, he does anything to stay away from the partner. He may suddenly develop interest in sports, drinking and meeting friend outside the relationship.
The lost of interest can happen anytime. It could be the very first day of date or, later. Anytime those boring and hatred feelings are developed towards a partner.
In this can of relationship, one of the partners really cares about the relationship and would want to save it and carry on. But, the less concern partner has already made up his mind to destroy everything.
And, the lost of enthusiasm isn’t always noticeable by the partners. Until one of them starts behaving unusually
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Loving The Wrong Person
It’s common these days to love the wrong person. Because in relationships they’re characters men desire in women. And, that’s why they marry some and not others.
Some of the traits they desire are;
A woman must be simple- minded and cheerful
She must really enjoy sex
She must not transfer all her problems to the man
But, sees the man as a part of her. That’s to, still love and respect him.
And, encourage him in his daily activities. Rather than commanding him around.
Some of the traits they desire are;
A woman must be simple- minded and cheerful
She must really enjoy sex
She must not transfer all her problems to the man
But, sees the man as a part of her. That’s to, still love and respect him.
And, encourage him in his daily activities. Rather than commanding him around.
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Must I Date Before Marraige
Am afraid because, a marriage counselor once told me that, one should date before marriage, to learn and tolerate his partner.
That, looking at your partner through romantic eyes without getting to know each other well may lead to marriage failure.
But, funny thing is happening to me. I don’t know whether it’s love at first sight. Because am into a relationship that’s less than 6 months, but we’re planning for marriage.
Many things have been said about dating. At least to know whether both partners can stay together.
That, looking at your partner through romantic eyes without getting to know each other well may lead to marriage failure.
But, funny thing is happening to me. I don’t know whether it’s love at first sight. Because am into a relationship that’s less than 6 months, but we’re planning for marriage.
Many things have been said about dating. At least to know whether both partners can stay together.
Selling Virginity
What’s on the mind of girls who auction off their God- given endowment to the highest bidder? Very many girls are auctioning off their virginity on the internet.
I mean they’re ready to have their first sexual experience for money. It’s quite surprising, because everything is now for sale.
One thing I know is, such decision must have an impact on them for the rest of their of one’s life .Even with the future relationship with the husband.
I mean they’re ready to have their first sexual experience for money. It’s quite surprising, because everything is now for sale.
One thing I know is, such decision must have an impact on them for the rest of their of one’s life .Even with the future relationship with the husband.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Celebrities Marraige
From a roughly estimation, celebrities usually fail in marriage, because they’re poor friends. They assumed that love and mutual trust is all that’s needed to succeed in the marriage.
The genius or the superior partner looks down on the weaker ones, and makes him loss his dignity.
Also, they lack leisure activities like, shopping, swimming, gardening etc, that’re better opportunities to develop interest for good friendship before marriage.
The worst of it is that, dating and courtship period that’s used to understand them better is abused by telling lies. So, celebrities fail to be supportive to their weaker partners. Because, marriage is all about helping and supporting each other
The genius or the superior partner looks down on the weaker ones, and makes him loss his dignity.
Also, they lack leisure activities like, shopping, swimming, gardening etc, that’re better opportunities to develop interest for good friendship before marriage.
The worst of it is that, dating and courtship period that’s used to understand them better is abused by telling lies. So, celebrities fail to be supportive to their weaker partners. Because, marriage is all about helping and supporting each other
Friday, September 18, 2009
All Need Is Love Snacks
Just as you take gala and soft-drinks to support meals. Relationships equally need love snacks .Those small-small love we show.Like kiss on the neck.breakfast in bed,a huge and a pat at the back,gives senses of pride.
But,some guys think,once their lovers are sexually satisfied and lavished with bucks-nothing else remains.Even,most girls only know how to be submissive in bed.
It will surprise you to see how your partner will stick to you.If you continue to shower love snacks on him/her.Because he/her must respond well to you.
Praises and recognition is what lovers need ,instead of complain and accusation.
But,some guys think,once their lovers are sexually satisfied and lavished with bucks-nothing else remains.Even,most girls only know how to be submissive in bed.
It will surprise you to see how your partner will stick to you.If you continue to shower love snacks on him/her.Because he/her must respond well to you.
Praises and recognition is what lovers need ,instead of complain and accusation.
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